(by young adults)
*DISCLAIMER: Answers come from learnt, personal experiences and not from a qualified professional.*
Lets help to say the answers before the questions!
Find below some answer suggestions to the questions many young adults have. They may be too afraid to ask, but they’re definitely thinking these things, so sometimes it’s a good idea to say the answer before the question.
Q: Will I bleed the first time I have sex?
Most people accept bleeding as a normal part of having sex for the first time, but blood can be prevented. Blood can be caused by the hymen breaking in the vagina however every hymen is different, some don’t even have a blood supply, and most are broken well before penetrative sex (from tampons, masturbation etc.) Blood is usually an indicator that there is a tear in the vaginal wall which means the vagina is not properly lubricated or ready for penetrative sex. It is very important to listen to your body before having penetrative sex, whether it’s your first time or not. There are a few things you can do to have a sexual experience be a pleasurable one:
- Foreplay – getting yourself in the mood can take time, but if properly aroused, the vagina will produce it’s own natural lubricant which will stop tears.
- Lube – if you feel ready for sex but your body needs some extra help, try and use a water based lubricant.
Q: Why does it hurt when I have sex?
The most common cause for pain during sex is simply that your body is not ready to be penetrated. This can be in the form of vaginal tears from lack of lubrication or from your partner’s penis touching your cervix.
The cervix – when aroused – opens up to allow more space inside of you, however if your body is not ‘turned on’ or was rushed into penetrative sex, then the cervix will remain in the same place. If touched, this feels painful.
Q: Can I have sex on my period / when my partner is on her period?
It is completely fine to have sex when a female is on her period as long as there is appropriate contraception / protection being used. Some women find sex on their period more enjoyable, and some prefer to not have sex at all. Whatever your preference, it’s always best to chat to your partner beforehand.
Q: Where can I go if I think I have an STI?
There are many places that are free and confidential if you feel you might need to see someone regarding your sexual health. The NHS website can find one nearest to you.
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